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[大鳥哥上學去] 你打人,我打你。爛死了


2017 oct go to school happily?

我過了好多天還是不知道要怎麼寫這一篇文章。丟臉,愧疚,憤怒,傷心,無力,反叛每一種心情都有點。
憤怒:為什麼千交代萬交代孩子就是聽不懂!一定要手來腳
       去,一定要失控,一定要被懲罰 了也還不一定知道不要
       再犯?
無力:真的覺得能說的都說了,能做的都做了。為什麼別得 
         孩子就不會有這個問題?
丟臉:從雙十連假阿公阿嬤跟外婆接力北上,結果卻看到兩個
        孩子吵架,失控,「無內才」。現在可好,連學校老師
         也提點了。到底會不會教小孩啊?!?!
愧疚:罵到火氣上來就打小孩啊!
傷心:為什麼罵到火氣上來就亂打小孩啊!
反骨:那個孩子不調皮!哪個孩子不愛玩!哪個孩子不是被罵
         漲大的!一個巴掌打不想,怎麼不去說跟他一起玩的小
         孩是哪個?最好都只有對方被打!!
拷問式溝通:用極端嚴厲的語氣逼問出一起玩的人是誰!!!
         被老師罵過幾次!!!被處罰過幾次!!最後加上在  
         恐嚇:「再玩,我就去學校找你同學!!!!」
比爛式勸導:你知道某某某就是多糟糕嗎!某某某被他爸打的
         多兇?某某某被老師留在哪裡哪裡?
加減分式鼓勵:來!你覺得你從上學開始很棒的地方有多少,
         不好的地方又有多少?那是不是可以改進呢?
遊戲式說明:只要對方說「不要!」就像是玩紅綠燈時的「紅
         燈」喔!「紅燈」 就不能追他,不能抓他了喔!知道
          嗎!!?
心理分析:你是不是太「開心」了?因為開心所以玩,因為開
          心所以講話,因為開心所以不睡覺,因為開心所以插
          話,因為開心所以同學說不玩了妳還要玩。我知道你
          很「開心」,可是為什麼最後變成「不開心」了呢?
          我們一起想一想好嗎?能不能夠在不能「很開心」的
          時候,稍微忍一下呢?能不能不要讓自己的開心變成
          別人的「不開心」呢?
然後下次也許還是一樣。
然後最讓我舒心的安慰是朋友說「我媽都拿水管抽我哥啊!」
有如當頭棒喝,餘音繞樑。
十分舒心。






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the sign

This is the talisman that I bought last year in Japan. It came from a famous temple which is shown in Geisha. the exact temple in which the heroine runs across numerous red gateway.
the talisman is meant to protect the one who wears it and to reconcile the possible danger before hand.
Usually, I am not a very superstitious person. however this kind of trivial signs always bother me a lot.
Every time something close to me is broken or lost, I could not help but wonder if there was something happened and I did not know for the moment and forever.
The sense of insecurity would annoy me for a while until the busy life schedule pushs me further.

On the other hand, I am kind of released at this moment, for I tend to assume this talisman had
solved some possible problem or danger for me.

This evening on my way to the MRT station, this Fox-shaped talisman dropped on the elevator.
Immediately I pick it up and keep it in my bag.
Then once again, I wonder what could happen and what would happen~

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